Becoming Vulnerable

How do you get clarity on where you want to go and get the help you need to get there?

I’ve found that just trying to figure things out on my own is not a good place to be. It leaves a vacuum because I can only see through the lens of my own experience.

I need feedback from people who share similar values. I can learn so much from others, even if they took different education or career paths than I did.

This is often hard because it requires being vulnerable, peeling off the armor we all put on every day to look confident, like we have it all together.

It is important to have confidence in yourself. But you don’t want to be so over-confident that you can’t find one or two people (or a small group) you can peel off that armor in front of.

You need to have trust and confidentiality in a small group where you can share the deep-down frustrations and fears that keep you up at night.

These are the things we don’t want to share with many people, if any at all. Many times we don’t even share these things with our spouse, for fear of appearing weak.

But the key is: we can’t get help or real clarity if we're not willing to dig down deep and open up with the right people. If we keep everything inside, no one can look in and say “Hey, you know what…?”

You may think this is a negative aspect to deal with, but we can flip it into a positive one.

In so many situations in my life, I only saw the negative side of things through my lens, my framework.

But someone else could look at my situation and say “Wait, maybe it’s not working how you want because you’re only utilizing this experience in one particular way. What if you turn it this way or bring in these resources?”

You’ve got to be able to be vulnerable, to share your goals out loud with other people who will help you stay accountable. Scary, right?

We have to keep coming back to the same people to share where we’ve gotten with our goals. It’s like having a personal trainer, someone to help us keep score.

We don't have to be perfect or hit the high bar every time. But, we’ve got to know where we are so we can get help when we’re stuck or don’t know how to push through an obstacle.

You may have to kiss a few frogs to find those people, but finding your tribe is well worth it.

Start with one person. The right kind of person should know someone else and maybe you’ll put together your own accountability or mastermind group. 

You’ve got to start this process early in life. Don’t put it off – you’re ready now.

Find your tribe, open up, share your goals, be vulnerable.

To your freedom!


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